As I was aimlessly scrolling through Instagram reels, (sucked into the time vortex) I noticed that in 2021, in the age of equality among men and women, many women still have the same complaints about men. The famous, “Give us a back rub, only a Back rub”, reel. Or my husband doesn’t see the dirty dishes in the sink, or all the other chores around the house. My husband is stay at home Dad, he is a great husband and father, and he will do anything I ask him to do. But that is just that, I have to ask. Arrrgh so annoying, the old do I want to be right or do I want to be happy debate.
My husband has always asserted a line, that I don’t agree with, but I am beginning to believe to be true, “that is what mom’s do.” I am not saying its right, but I understand.” Let me explain.
When the twins were babies, they had a crib in the room with us. They would cry and wake up in the middle of the night. I would look over at my husband, sound asleep as if nothing was happening. I would wake him up and ask him to help and he would do so with out argument, and exclaim, “wow I did not hear them.” How is this possible?! they are a foot from your head! He explained that this happend with his first wife as well, the kids would cry in the middle of the night, and before he could wake up enough to understand what was happening, she was up with a bottle and back to bed. So he got a customed to sleeping through it, (Thanks First wife.)
I travel sometimes for work. So while I am out of the house, he has to get up with the kids, and clean the house and cook dinner. He does a great job at it, I come home the house is clean, kids are fed and living. Not the way I would do things, but I had to get over that. When I am not home, he can hear the kids cry and see the chores that need to get done, but when I am home, he can no longer hear the children or see dirt. Fascinating. My mear presence makes dirt and sound inconceivable to him. If only I had something that could do that for me.